Perspectives

Promoting self-love: No wonder why the world is getting worst

Have you noticed that these days, people focusing too much on promoting self-love? Celebrities, influencers, professionals, and even leaders are evangelizing self-love. Love yourself first more than anything and anyone else; disregard what others will say or feel as long as you’re happy and you know you’re right based on your own judgment and standards; and exaggerated self-esteem.

The effects of promoting self love which can already be seen and common nowadays:

  • Overconfidence, arrogance, selfishness, and self-righteousness
  • False sense of superiority
  • Lack of empathy towards others
  • Greediness
  • Narcissism
  • Self Entitlement
  • Immorality (because moral code is already based on self-judgment)
  • Depression
  • Jealousy
  • Self-Pity
  • Cheating

Do you agree with the list? It is very common in Social Media, where people brag about anything just to show their peers that they are good, they are doing good, and they better than others. But in reality, it is not. Buying things in a rush to impress others, but eventually, they become silent once it backfired to them. The bank takes their car because they cannot pay the monthly amortization; they are in huge debt from friends and family members just to maintain the lifestyle they are trying to portray, and pay for the things that they can’t really afford; their basic necessities suffer because they are still paying for the monthly amortization of their house that they don’t really afford; leisure over savings; and the worst part, others are being hurt in the process, especially the innocent children who grew up with less attention from their parents because their parents are so busy making money to sustain the success that is defined by this world.

Outside social media, in the real world, you can also see the negative effects. One good example is this pandemic. Instead of people helping each other and be considerate to others, people hoard the supply even if it’s too much for them. We all saw in the first months of the pandemic, that the government need to impose a purchase limit for a select few grocery items. Some are not observing the health protocols to stop the spread of the virus. Huge family/social gatherings, leisure travels, not wearing of masks, not observing physical distancing, dishonesty in contact tracing forms, government officials taking advantage of the crisis, the “palakasan” system to be among the first to get vaccinated and also get financial assistance from the government even if not qualified and/or capable (I’m a victim of this from my own mother), and many others. See? that’s only for this pandemic, what more if we go beyond the pandemic situation.

I think, instead of promoting self-love, we should start promoting SELFLESS LOVE. We can all benefit from this, and it will bring wonders to the world. Just like what our Lord Jesus showed what selfless love can do. Dying on the cross for our sins even he is pure and without blemish is the greatest sacrifice this world has ever experience.

Only selfless love, Jesus show the world, that only selfless love can bring a hundredfold.

from the song “Only Selfless Love” by Jamie Rivera

The effects of promoting selfless love:

  • Genuine love and happiness
  • Emphatic
  • Considerate to others
  • High morale
  • Helping others/each other
  • Honesty and Trust
  • Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility
  • Peace and Harmony

If only we promote selfless love; during this pandemic, we might not experience a shortage in supplies because no one hoards it. The assistance fund is enough because those who can still sustain their families don’t need to take from it. The virus didn’t spread rapidly because we are concern and considerate to others that we will always observe the health protocols, and avoid any unnecessary travels and gatherings for a while. And the government officials are doing their best to end this crisis, instead of attacking political rivals, promoting themselves during the crisis. And have an open mind to accept criticism and suggestions for them to further improve their strategies.

Good thing, there are still good and unselfish people who exist. Those who extend their help to the needy, the community pantries, the support is given to those who started their small business because they lose their job, some government officials who genuinely serving the people, those who follow the health protocols for the sake of their families, friends, and other people, and the countless and unsung good deeds that the others are doing in secret (because that’s how we should do good things, in secret).

Besides, our known heroes like Jose Rizal, Andres Bonifacio, Apolinario Mabini, Melchora Aquino, and many others including our modern heroes (like our healthcare workers, front liners, and OFWs) didn’t become our heroes because of selfishness, but because of their sacrifices for the country and for the people.

Speaking of heroes, as All Might (of My Hero Academia anime) said:

Nothing is nobler than self sacrifice.